At what point in a mother's life is her hair not the source of everyone's comfort?

It works out well that I rarely ever "do" my hair (meaning hair drying, straightening...) because it is always being yanked, bobby pin pulled out, hair pulled out--you get the picture. I used to save the hair "doing" at least for Sunday church, but that is a rarity these days. If I could just find a hair cut that looked great without any maintenance or pulling back constantly...ladies, any help???